I received a message from a couple who had questions about genital piercings:

Hello Elayne,  

My wife would like to get a VCH piercing and we went to one local piercer in Cape Coral, FL and he said he couldn't do it.  We had heard it was a good reputable place but it seems like he was nervous or uncomfortable because he didn't examine very long at all, more like a quick look and said sorry.  If I sent you a picture would you be able to tell if you would be able to do it?  I fly with an airline and we can travel to where ever you would be to have it done.  Also, I would like to get a piercing and not sure as to whether I want a PA or or apadravya or dydoe...not concerned so much for my increased sensation but what typically feels better or more enhanced sensation on the woman during intercourse.  Any suggestions?  Thank you for your help.

M

My response:

HI M.

I'll be happy to assist you as best I can from this distance.

If you are able to travel and you would like to be notified when I make travel plans in the future, please sign up for my newsletter by typing your email address into the box at the bottom of any page on this site. It is an "opt-in" list, so I can't add you myself. I frequently have clients drive or fly in from other areas when I work. 

If your wife wishes to have a consultation with me for your anatomy in relation to piercing suitability, please visit this page for information.

To evaluate for a VCH piercing, you have to try the q-tip test as shown and explained on this page of my website. Though chances are you can try it for yourself after reading the page and viewing the video.

You should de-fluff the swab and lubricate it bit if her hood seems tight or shallow and simply insert the swab under your hood but don't push up too hard on it. Sometimes there's not much of a natural "overhang" of skin, but if it can be manipulated to cover, it is still safe to do the piercing. So if her hood doesn't cover the tip of the swab, use your other hand to try to manually move the tissue down to try to draw the skin over to the swab tip. (It is easier to push the tissue down rather than try to pull it.) The skin won't stay in that position like that, but that's fine--if you can get it to cover, it means you're a candidate--at least for ME to do the piercing. Not all piercers know how to work with minimal anatomy. 

Everyone is different and it depends on your fit with your wife and her individual sensitivity, but for me, the apadravya is the most pleasurable piercing for my partner to have. Note that the PA is the lower half of the apadravya, so if you wanted to start with the PA, it could be extended into an apadravya at a later date. The PA takes only 4-6 weeks to heal and is an easy introduction to piercing (though it can be messy--that particular piercing is apt to bleed). The apadravya takes months to heal. During that time you have to follow the rules carefully.

This is an excerpt from my book, The Piercing Bible--The Definitive Guide to Safe Body Piercing:

Safer Sex

There is no set period for abstinence from sexual activities while genital piercings are healing. There are, however, two nonnegotiable rules:

1. Be gentle. Pay attention to your body. If your piercing feels sore, you must stop what you’re doing, or at least ease up. As you begin to heal and the piercing feels less tender, you must still be vigilant to avoid injuring the fragile new cells.

2. Be clean and hygienic. Protective barriers must be used to prevent the sharing of bodily fluids. For oral sexual contact, use a dental dam (sheet of latex) to shield female genitalia and a flavored or unlubricated condom during fellatio. Thoroughly wash hands and sex toys before contact near a healing piercing, and use condoms for all intercourse and on insertables like dildos and bullet-type vibrators. If other barriers aren’t suitable, apply a waterproof dressing such as a Nexcare or Tegaderm before sexual activities to keep your partner’s body fluids from getting on your piercing. All of these precautions are mandatory to prevent infection during the entire initial healing period, even if you and your partner are monogamous and healthy.

Appropriate body jewelry is smooth, so high-quality condoms that fit properly should perform well. Water-based lubricant helps reduce excess friction to protect the integrity of the latex. The sensitivity of your healing piercing can make up for the addition of an unfamiliar barrier. Pleasure Plus condoms are made with extra room that is suited to frenum and Prince Albert jewelry. Avoid condoms and lubricants with the spermicide nonoxynol-9 (N-9), as this harsh chemical may burn or sting and can harm the delicate cells of a fresh piercing (as well as vaginal or rectal tissue).

/piercing-aftercare//piercing-aftercare/ are the care instructions I suggest.