August 4th, 2012
I received an interesting message from a woman who is interested in getting a triangle piercing, but she has not had penetrative sex yet (and may never have had an orgasm):
I have been thinking about getting a triangle piercing for about 3 months now. I have trouble (or perhaps have never, am not super clear on this point) reaching orgasm and I think that this would help. From the information you gave on your site, I think that I am anatomically suited for it (yay). A friend implied that since I have not ever actually had penetrative sex, I should wait and "see if that makes a difference" (I am in my mid-twenties and attracted to men). In your professional opinion, do you think this piercing would make a difference? And do you think I should wait until after I have penetrative sex (that could be a while).
This is a very personal decision that I can't make for you. Though I can most certainly encourage you to wait until you're able to get to a piercer who is highly qualified, meaning someone I recommend, or me personally.
I can say (as a sexually savvy mature woman in my 50s) that you won't be fully versed on what you enjoy sexually until you get more experience. So you wouldn't be able to know, for example, how the piercing has enhanced sex, until you've had it.
August 4th, 2012
I received a message from a gal who was having problems with an ear piercing:
I can't get a good picture of the piercing so I'll try my best to describe the situation. I got my 4th piercing on my earlobe around the end of May 2012, and I think I may have created another hole next to the actual piercing. The piercing is probably around 90% healed; the front hole is healed and never bleeds, but the back hole (where the earring comes out of) is still healing and sometimes will bleed a tiny bit. I've been cleaning my piercing with salt water and anti bacterial soap, I have not used any creams or lotions on it, it does not hurt or ache and there is no pus. However, I think I may have poked another hole at the back of my ear when I pushed the earring back through the hole after I took it out to clean it. So now, I think I have one front hole, and two holes in the back. The earring can go through the front and out the back in two separate holes, and the two back holes are not connected. Something might have ripped on the inside of the piercing. I'm trying to close one of the holes, and the skin on the new one has already formed over but the area around it looks a bit red. Should I continue to clean it as I have been doing? Or should I get it checked out?
Any information would be helpful, thanks!
Your description is good, but I'm still not going to be able to offer thorough advice without seeing you, or at least a clear, close up photo or two.
Are you wearing body jewelry or a traditional earring? When you wear body jewelry there is NO REASON to take the jewelry out to clean it!
August 4th, 2012
I got a message from a woman who was having some problems with her VCH piercing (which I did not perform for her--though this particular healing problem can crop up even when everything is done properly).
Hi Elayne, I'm having issues with my VCH piercing. It began after being agitated after sex (it seemed to be healing fine at the time). I noticed it stung sometimes when I sat down, sometimes when I walked. Upon closer examination, I noticed something that looks like an extra bit of skin under the top ball. I paid extra attention to it during cleaning, and noticed there was a bit of (off-white) discharge. I started doing soaks, the discharge went away, it stopped stinging, but the extra skin didn't go away. I did that for about 1.5 weeks.
This morning, I woke up and the discharge came back and it slightly stings again. I just did a soak... But I'm not sure what else to do.
In reading your book, I think it may be a keloid, but I'm not sure. Maybe an abscess (but I don't feel any hard localized mass). If it is a keloid, should it just be taken out? How can I be sure there's no infection still inside the piercing?
August 3rd, 2012
I got a message from a woman who had her navel pierced on multiple occasions without success:
I wondered if you could help please. I'v now had my belly button peirced 5 times over the years and every time it grows out within a few month. The bar comes right to the surface so there's no longer any skin holdin it in and just a scab. I really don't no why this is happening I look after it well. I have my ears peirced since been a baby and never had any problems. The scar I'm left with is quite big and each time I used to get it peirced behind the scar. I really would like to have this peircing and for it to heal fully which it never has. Please can u advise if there is anything I could do or to just give it up as a bad job :(
Thanks for your time I look forward to your reply.
Did you do anything different to try for a different outcome? Alternate care or jewelry material? If you do things the same way, you can expect the same results.
Was your jewelry high quality with a mirror finish? See photo (of jewelry availble here):
August 3rd, 2012
I received a lot of questions about Prince Albert piercings from a man who was interested in getting one. Below is our correspondence:
Hi Elayne...Saw you were going to be in Philly and I missed you at Infinite (I live in Conn.). I'm what you might call an "older guy (over 50) and have been putting off getting a PA for years. Well, I'm ready but I want a seasoned pro like yourself. Who might you recommend? I know there are no safe piercing.org recommended in Conn., and I'll be back in my home town of Philly in late Aug. Anyone in particular at infinite you'd recommend for a PA? Thanks much!
Sorry I missed you in Philly last month; I would have loved to pierce you. Yes, I do have a referral at Infinite, and his name is Kellan. You'll be in good hands with him. All of my referrals information is on this page of my site:
Let me know how it goes, and if you do see someone I recommend, be sure to send my warmest regards.
August 2nd, 2012
I receieved a message from a woman who got a VCH piercing but she was concerned about the placement:
I just got my vch pierced two weeks ago...I'm afraid its too shallow and I can see the bar a little thru the skin. The piercer did use a receiving tube and said she used as much skin as possible ..and even performed the q tip test. In your opinion, should I take it out or is it ok.
If it is shallow do I have to take it out or is this something that I can manage? Will it migrate easier like it is?
From this view it looks rather shallow/close to the edge of your hood. But if it is placed at the apex (deepest point underneath) then it wouldn't necessarily be able to be done much further from the edge. Then there's the question of whether you were actually a suitable candidate to begin with.
August 1st, 2012
I received a message from a woman who had a nostril piercing problem:
I have been having difficulty accepting the placement of my nose piercing lately. When I first got it pierced back in march it was placed perfectly and I was completely happy with it. About a month ago I woke up with no piercing and a tiny bump covering my piercing hole. I just used another nose stud to push through the bump to save the piercing, and although it worked I think I "re-pierced" it tiny bit off from the original opening of the hole. Now to me my piercing sits back a little too much and also tilts back a little. I just would really appreciate your opinion on whether I should take out the piercing and let it close to get it re-pierced again by a professional. Thanks so much!
If you hate it every time you look at it, then that would be a reason to take it out. If you go back and forth sometimes feeling fine about it, then it might be best just to let it stay.
July 30th, 2012
I received a message from a woman who wanted to know if her VCH was correctly placed, along with some photos:
For comfort and ease of healing, I would have suggested you wear a bar rather than a ring. You are built with what I call a "hill" meaning your hood sticks out beyond your outer labia. This is as opposed to the build I refer to as a "valley" wherein the hood is recessed, and lower than the outer labia.
So that means your ring protrudes quite a distance from your body. This can impact healing through excess trauma, which can cause discomfort, pain, delayed healing, scar tissue, and/or migration.
You may have some swelling, which can make it hard to say for sure, but it looks as though it might be a little off toward the right side of your hood. I'd give it a few weeks to be sure after swelling comes down.
The part I can't see in these images is the most important part: where the ring comes through underneath. Due to tenderness, you may need to wait a few days or longer before getting a peek from the underside.