I went ahead and got pierced last week (VCH), and it is doing pretty well. I just have a couple more questions for you. I am still researching stuff on the vch and there was one place that said 16 gauge is to small for a genital piercing, and that you aren't suppose to have a hoop in when you heal...  Well the ring I have is 16 gauge. Is that a problem? If so can you advise me on a gauge size and jewelry type?
Thanks

I use 14 gauge as a minimum, because the 16 really is on the thin side. But, if it that is the size you have in, and the piercing is properly placed and heals well, you can easily have it stretched up later. You should wait until you have been healed for a month or two before stretching. If you begin to have healing problems such as irritation, tearing, or migration, then you should have your ring swapped out for a bar as soon as possible. Always have a professional do any jewelry change that becomes necessary during a healing period.

I  use a ring only when a woman is built with a "valley"-- a recessed hood area, and outer labia that are large and cover the area. If you have a "hill" configuration with a prominent hood, then the ring is not a good jewelry style for healing because it will be subject to excessive trauma (though it could be fine for later).