October 17th, 2008
I just got an email with this question:
Hi. I found your site while looking for info. and thought I'd see if you could answer a question. I just had a horizontal hood piercing fall out for the second time. (second piercing) Niether time have I been able to locate my hole and put the ring back in. This time I had a horseshoe barbell and the balls were still on it when it fell out. Is it possible that this piecing grew out? Should I not go for a third attempt? I miss it already!Hi there, Have you had a piercer or even a partner examine the area to determine whether it appears the jewelry he piercing grew out? It can be hard to see for yourself. Under the circumstances, it probably did grow out. It is much less likely that the hole stretched large enough for the jewelry to slip through. Did you talk to the piercer about what had happened when you went in for the second piercing? If you can take some clear, close-up photos, I'd be happy to evaluate the area for you myself. Many women aren't built for a horizontal hood piercing. If your hood area is very vertical or recessed, it won't matter what you do--the piercing will grow out. How about a vertical piercing instead? If you're built for it, it is a fantastic piercing and they are much easier to deal with and to heal since the go with the shape of female anatomy--instead of against it as a horizontal piercing does. You can check for suitability using the q-tip test pictured on my site: http://ringsofdesire.com/q_tip.html Thanks for writing,
October 16th, 2008
I got a question today that I hadn't been asked before:
Hi, I would be grateful if you could give me some advice regarding penis piercings. I have just realised that my boyfriends piercing has come off during sex. i found the hoop part to it, but could not find the ball part. I would be grateful if you could offer me some advice as to what I should do next. Many thanks.Hi, Is it possible that the ball was gone before you had sex and was never inside you? Even if the ball had been inside you at some point, it may have fallen out and gotten lost without your awareness. If a manual examination with your finger (or your boyfriend's finger) does reveal the missing jewelry and you have reason to believe it is inside you, or you feel stressed out over wondering, you may want to visit your gynecologist for a more thorough exam. It is extremely unlikely that the ball has gone far (for example into your cervix or uterus) as you would feel pain and cramping from a foreign object there. As they say, "What goes up, must come down" and that likely probably here as well. Let me know what happens! Angel
October 9th, 2008
Here is an email I just received:
Hello Elayne, I am thinking about getting a VHC piercing. . . I read your article about genital piercing and I wanted to thank you for making that information available to everyone. I am hoping that this piercing will help me break free from the self imposed chains on my sexuality. I'm not sure why or how it happened but, over the years I became extremely sensitive to the derogatory things men would say about a woman's body. Even acts of innocent school boy humor would cripple me in my mind. I felt shameful of my less-than-perfect breasts and weird looking vagina which caused me to be very guarded during sex, even in a committed relationship. In the past I have always shielded my body from others eyes, from embarrassment. However, I am now with someone who for some reason sparked me to work on my mental and emotional problems with my sexuality. In just a few shorts months I have improved greatly. I am starting to realize that everyone is different looking and that no one looks like a porn start with a perfect, hairless, tan and pink vagina with hardly any labia. I am starting to adapt a new idea of "normal" which is that there is no such thing and that if you love someone you will love everything about them, even if it's different or strange. I feel as if this piercing could be very beneficial for my process of reclaiming pride in my body and sexuality. Thank you very much for your time and once again thank you for your website.And she's absolutely right--it CAN! I've had many clients tell me of their improved self-confidence and more enjoyable sex lives following getting a genital piercing. How awesome is that!?
October 1st, 2008
I've completed the edits requested by my editor Lisa. They included turning chapter 1 into an introduction, combining the male and female genital piercings chapters into one big (whopping!) chapter, and so on. I combined some sections and changed them around to eliminate redundancy. It is hard to do because so much of the content is interrelated! She added cross references, and so on. We worked on it together, bouncing it back and forth several times over the course of a week. Now the manuscript has been sent to the copy editing department. Lisa said that the manuscript came in longer than expected. I offered to edit out more, but she didn't want me to. In fact, she even added one thing back in that I had edited out. So, while it is longer than they wanted, they seem to find the information important enough to leave in. So that's good! Now my awesome illustrator Jennifer and I are working together on the drawings of piercings that are going in the book. I send her photos of piercings with written instructions. She sends me back a draft. Sometimes we talk on the phone, sometimes I print the draft, and use white out and make suggestions for her. We bounce it back and forth (sometimes there are as many as 10 drafts of a body part!) and once it is done, she shades it in. That's when I can really see what an awesome job she's doing. She is fantastic with the shading. How lucky am I to find an artist to do this who has experience both tattooing and piercing, too! Yay Jennifer!
September 28th, 2008
This was written on my facebook wall:
“Elayne Angel is the EPITOME of knowledge/professionalism/excellence and everyone should tip their hat to what she has done to educate the world in this trade that she is THE QUEEN OF!!! Love You Angel!!! Thank You For Helping Make Me Who I Am! Your Friendship/Advice/You As A Person is SO Appreciated!!!” Jeremy YoungmanThanks Jeremy! I'm a fan of yours, too!
September 26th, 2008
Things are moving right along. This past week has been filled with multiple rounds of passing my manuscript back and forth with my editor. She'd send it back at about 8 pm and want the changes made by the next day! Needless to say I was "burning the midnight oil" to get it all done. But I did it! And it is a feeling of great accomplishment! I'm also working hard with my wonderful illustrator Jennifer! She's fantastic and she is doing all of the drawings from photos of piercings. Collaborating with her is a whole new skill (how do you EXPLAIN where the piercing should go in words?!). I'm really enjoying it and learning a lot, too. I finished up work today by making a list of all of the photos in the book and their captions. I went through to figure out which images are on hand, and which I still need to obtain. There are so many parts to putting this book together! I can't wait to see the finished product. Off to watch the Obama/McCain debate!
September 15th, 2008
I had made a referral to a piercer and this is feedback from the gal who got pierced.
Hi Angel, I can't thank you enough for your help finding Clay at Infinite!! I went and had it done Saturday, he was really fantastic. He performed the VCH on me, it went very well, no problem at all. The placement looks just where it should be! You were so right he is a very cool and funny guy. I actually took a friend with me and she was thinking about getting the VCH but after Clay took a look at her, he told her she was perfect for the Triangle, and so she had him do it. It went perfectly, no problem for her either! You have helped me so much finding the right piercer, I truly thank you for all of your efforts. You know without your website I would have never been able to gather all the information I needed to know about these types of piercings, I would have stopped thinking about it years ago. So you have helped me on all levels. I hope you are doing well and that the book is coming along just fine, it will help so many people like me. Take Care Angel, K.
September 12th, 2008
I have to admit that I've felt pretty stressed out while my editor, Lisa, has had been giving the manuscript for The Piercing Bible its first developmental edit. She sent it back tonight with this delightfully positive comment:
Hi Elayne, Wow, I feel like I've spent a lot of time with you this week! That's how well your fabulous voice shines through in this manuscript. It's clear, authoritative, informative, with little bursts of humor to keep the reader interested. Well done!I'll admit I've got a HUGE grin plastered on my face after reading that!