Frenum piercing

I received a message from a man who had questions about optimal placement and healing issues with upper frenums:

Hi. I was wondering if top frenums are frequent for migration and rejection. I have had mine pierced three times and they keep migrating out. The first two times were at 14g and this last time was at 10g. I started with 3 top frenums at 10g but after 2 months I lost one and a few weeks later another one. I'm thinking that the 10g rejection was caused by my switch of jewelry after 2 months of getting them redone. My idea for the frenums is to wear large diameter CBRs in the frenums like c-rings. I wanted to try the jewelry out and wore it for a few weeks.

When I stretched my bottom frenums (which have given me no problems) and the last top frenum to 8g, my piercer has advised not to wear that jewelry for long term wear as they would cause pressure and migration. She was noticing the signs on the 10g CBRs I was wearing at the time of the stretch. Do you think it would be worth trying a fourth time on one of my top frenums that is near the middle of my shaft length or should I just be happy with the bottom ones?

My response:

Hi.

Upper frenums can be harder to heal for many men. There tends to be less pliable tissue on the top and that seems to lead to complications like migration and rejection. 

It is possible 12 gauge would be a better starting size. It is large enough to be sufficiently sturdy, but will not cause as much pressure against the tissue as a 10 ga (especially if you don't have a lot of excess skin).

Also how much tissue was pierced between the entry and exit during the initial piercings? Do you have any photos of the piercings when they were new?

I received a message from a gentleman who was having problems with a "pubic piercing"

Hi Angel,
I would like to seek your professional opinion and consultation on my current piercing.
I have got my pubic piercing 2 months ago, but it seems to be rejected in the last few weeks (picture of initial piercing and current status are attached for your reference)
My questions are:
1.       Should I take it out now and abandon the piercing?  Let it healed and re-pierce later.  My concern is will there be any risk to trap any bacteria in the piercing?
2.       Or should I leave it there and hope it can settle with this status?  The worst case will be torn out, right?
Any advice will be highly appreciated.   It really makes me embarrassed as I have not encountered any piercing rejection before for all my healed piercing including PA, nipples and others…
Thanks in advance for your kind advance.

My reply:

I received a lot of questions about Prince Albert piercings from a man who was interested in getting one. Below is our correspondence:

Hi Elayne...Saw you were going to be in Philly and I missed you at Infinite (I live in Conn.).  I'm what you  might call an "older guy (over 50) and have been putting off getting a PA for years.  Well, I'm ready but I want a seasoned pro like yourself.  Who might you recommend?  I know there are no safe piercing.org recommended in Conn., and I'll be back in my home town of Philly in late Aug.  Anyone in particular at infinite you'd recommend for a PA?  Thanks much!

Sorry I missed you in Philly last month; I would have loved to pierce you. Yes, I do have a referral at Infinite, and his name is Kellan. You'll be in good hands with him. All of my referrals information is on this page of my site:
http://piercingbible.com/piercer-referrals

Let me know how it goes, and if you do see someone I recommend, be sure to send my warmest regards.

I received an inquiry from a man interested in some genital piercings:

Dear Elayne,

I wondered if I might trouble you for some advice please? I have been thinking about the possibility of running a circular ring around the base of my penis through two frenums on each side, and a lorum. I havn't had these piercings done yet, but I wondered if you thought this might be possible and if so, how the best way to do this might be (i.e. get the three piercings first? How much skin they should span etc.)? Hope you might be able to advise me on this, and thank you for offering to be contacted; you're website is invaluable!

Best wishes,

J.

My reply:

You would get the piercings separately, have them heal with individual jewelry, and then insert a ring through all three.

However, the only way that's going to work is if you don't have much of a change in the dimensions of that area when you're fully erect. The ring will need to be large enough to encompass your maximum size during erection. Would the jewelry required to fit you at that size distort the tissue when you are flaccid? Most likely so, in which case, this is not going to be a safe or comfortable arrangement.

If you think you could comfortably wear the same size ring when erect and flaccid, then you may be able to wear this combination (assuming the placement of the piercings is lined up properly--as that can also be fairly different between those two normal states.

Good luck! Let me know if you give it a try and how it works out for you.

I got a message from a reader who wanted my input on frenum piercings:

Hi there Elayne,

I own your book and respect you and your opinions like no other.  Please keep up the good work. 

I am curious about a frenum piercing, except lower, about halfway down the shaft and maybe 3 of them.  I was wondering if I sent you a picture if I could get your opinion on if my anatomy would be fort for these piercing.  I have a very good piercer set up to do it for me, except I dont have a lot of money to make 2 trips, like one extra for a consult. That's why I was asking I you could let my know what you think. 

Also I was thinking curved barbell?  Whats you opinion on that?  Also possibly a horseshoe later on.  If you can accept pics what address would I email it to?  My piercer and I were talking and she suggested about 1/2" curved barbell at 14 gauge to start.  Thanks for your time. 
J.

My reply:

Below is a correspondence exchange between me and a woman who had questions about genital (and ear cartilage) piercings for her and for her boyfriend:

Hi Elayne!
 
I'm sure Atlanta was glad to have you back! Unfortunately for me, I've moved to Oklahoma for a while. I keep up with your schedule so I'm hoping that one of these days, I will have the pleasure and privilege to meet you.
 
I have two questions and since ladies should always go first, I will ask the question in regards to the Christina piercing. Lol. I've done some research on it and find it very attractive. Can you tell me more about it and is it and ok piercing for a woman to have?

Secondly, my boyfriend wants to get a frenum piercing however, it will be his first and only piercing and his main concern is the placing of the piercing itself. He was curious about, and sorry for being graphic but, masturbation and intercourse. After it's healed, will the placement affect what he does with his penis? I'm also curious myself since I'm the one who suggested it after we looked at several different kind of male gential piercings and he asked me which one I liked. Anyways, that's all I wanted to know.

Thank you. T.

My response:

I recently received a great message from a gentleman who got his first piercings at age 50. He wrote to say how much he likes emu oil, and how well it worked on his piercings and stretches:

I recently received a very interesting piercing question from a piercer who is unsure of what to do when it becomes clear that a client is getting genital piercings for the experience of being pierced, and who does not really want to wear jewelry:

I have a 74-year-old gentleman who early last week came in and requested 4 8 gauge frenum piercings and an 8 gauge prince albert. Anatomy was suitable for the frenums but not quite for the P.A. so I made him aware and performed that piercing at a 10 gauge instead.

Everything was well and good, he was a more than satisfied client and went on his way. 3 days later he came in again and had taken them all out and wanted them all performed again. The P.A. was easily tapered back open and was not in need of a repierce. To redo the Frenums I just offset them a safe distance from the previous spots and re pierced them. The fact that he had had the procedure performed and then taken them out and had them redone within 3 days raised a few questions in my mind but i decided that I had no reason to not believe him when he said that he had just gotten frustrated with them so he took them out and realized doing so was a mistake.

Today, however, the gentleman came in to the shop again (3 days after the re-pierce, 6 days after the initial procedure) and had taken them all out again and wanted them re pierced yet again.